Even perhaps more interesting is looking at this as you have in the article as it relates to change. When some one decides on the trade off and decides what they want to do. Often they cannot over come counter commitments they have that prevents the choice or change to happen. This notion of counter commitment is from Kegan and Lahey's work at Harvard. The best way thru this is to understand what are these beliefs, myths, stories that you are holding on to that prevent the change. Once identified, try testing them to demonstrate yourself that they are not true – you will be able to reduce these barriers to the change much more easily.

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